Let’s Talk About “Selective Reduction”
The extent of my problem is that I’m over 40 and I don’t have a lot of time
View ArticleMoving Once Again Amidst Madness & Excitement
My husband asked me the other day if our lives would ever be sane. I reminded him of a promise I made when we married: marriage would never make our lives boring. What an understatement! Not all of our...
View ArticleAll My Little Girl Dreams Are Coming True
This past week I celebrated my third wedding anniversary. Since I was sick and confined to bed, I had time to think about these last few years, how I got to where I am today, and how unlikely a journey...
View ArticleWhen My Sister Got Pregnant
Jennifer Gilmore’s new novel, The Mothers–about a couple’s journey through adoption–is out today! Check it out here. The call from my sister came in the afternoon. I remember the day: bright robin’s...
View ArticleAfter Years of Failed Fertility Treatments, A New Plan
We are adopting. If all goes well, within the next few weeks, I will get pregnant and about eight months later I will give birth. But that baby will be adopted. Mind-blowing, no? We’ve been trying to...
View ArticleA Surprising Antidote to My Infertility Frustration
I had been trying to get pregnant for a year. Twelve months of charting my body’s rhythms, of turning sex from an art into a science; twelve times allowing my hopes to soar and then scraping them (and...
View ArticleGenetic Testing of Embryos Raises Big Ethical Questions
A gut-wrenching story in the New York Times this week details the difficult decisions of Amanda Baxley who, immediately after discovering she was a carrier of a gene which leads to...
View ArticleWhen Your Friend is Pregnant, Sometimes it Hurts
“I’ve been reluctant to write this email and I keep putting it off.” When you are not able to get pregnant and you get an email with that as the opening line, you know exactly what is coming. “Even...
View Article10 Pros and Cons to Being an Older Mom
For a long time I was an anomaly among my friends. Most were married in their 20s and started their families then. I watched and waited as I went through my days of being single. I did some more...
View ArticleIf Becoming a Mom Means Losing My Old Identity, I’m OK With That
I am Iliana’s mom. That is my identity, according to all of her friends. Am I OK with that? Hell, yeah! I have heard many times that you lose your identity after having a child, as no one calls you by...
View ArticleComing Out of the Cancer Closet After 20 Years
A few years ago, my mom’s cousin passed away from ovarian cancer. While I live far away and could not attend the funeral or shiva, I wanted to do something and so I wrote a note to each of her …...
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